Inspired by a wonderful woman in a not so wonderful situation…
Valentines day is over and the love drunk feeling has worn off. You now wake up with a massive hangover realizing that you have just gone through a break up. The ending of a relationship is never easy, but its something that everyone goes through. It is a painful, but necessary part of life. Can you imagine still being with your 5th grade boyfriend? Yes, it is rough, but here are some tips to help you get through the first few days and jumpstart your new life as a single girl.
Day 1: Regardless of the reasons, this breakup has just occurred and you are upset, angry, and hurt. Spend the day getting rid of ALL pictures of the both of you. Toss any mementos from the relationship, change your Face book status to “Single”, and then log off so you don’t have to make a public explanation quite yet. Very important…delete his number. As painful as this is, the relationship is over. Keeping his number in your phone hoping that he will text you will only prolong the pain. Make it a clean break. Once that is done, call all of your girlfriends to tell them the news. Any good girlfriend will list all of the reasons why you are better off without him. Usually, one will confess that she never really liked him anyway.
Day 2: Take the day off from the world. Close the blinds, turn off your phone, and shut down your laptop. Today is your day of mourning. Day 2 is very important, regardless of how long you were together. Any separation hurts and you need to allow yourself to be sad. Stock up on the saddest movies that you can find. You will cry, but it will get all of that bottled up emotion out and help you feel better. Plus you will realize that maybe things are not so bad. Also, today is the day of junk food. Pepperidge Farm Milano cookies and cheese puffs always did the trick for me, but you must find the perfect combination of your favorite goodies. One final rule of the day, do not drink alcohol! Hurt feelings mixed with alcohol are like adding fuel to the fire. You don’t want to do something stupid like drunken text your ex (since we both know you didn’t delete his number on day 1) or anyone else for that matter.
Day 3: This morning you will stumble into the bathroom and not recognize the person looking back at you. It is time to get rid of those puffy eyes and rat’s nest that has formed on top of your head. Wash your face, brush your hair, and maybe even paint your nails. Do things that will help you feel better. Today is the first day where it is all about you. Listen and sing along to Joan Jett, Beyonce, or any other strong women artists. No sad songs…that ship has sailed.
Day 4: Now that you are looking and feeling a little bit better, today is the day you face the world. Go outside; get some exercise, head to the grocery store to stock up on all of your healthy food. Now that you are single you will need to lose those few relationship pounds you gained. Yes, you are going to pass by the place where you had your first date, but just know that eventually it will become the place with okay Mexican food. Eventually, it will no longer mean anything to you.
Day 5: Time to reveal your new single fabulous self to the world. You may not feel up to going out, but you need to step up, put those heels on, and head out the door. Get a group of girls together and hit the town. Go out dancing while looking absolutely gorgeous! Get back out there and maybe even flirt a little. Although you are not quite ready to jump into a relationship just yet, there is nothing wrong with having a little fun.
If you remember nothing else from this article just keep this in mind. The relationship is over, lessons have been learned, and now you are a better person for it. You are an absolutely amazing woman!!! Fate stepped in because it was not meant to be. Don’t go out there trying to find another date right away. Just spend that extra time with someone who deserves it. You!!!